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Insights from Inside the Happy Marraige of the Diva of Divorce
by Arlan Kardon
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A marriage is like a dog talking to a chicken — you’re speaking different languages, so be patient and work at the communication skills of talking to a Martian. If you can work through the dog and chicken thing, you’ll be married forever. |
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Say “I love you” every day through your words or actions. |
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Remember to say “thank you,” whether it’s for dinner, a present or opening a car door. |
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Understand the difference between the man who forgets one birthday and the spouse who chronically forgets every occasion. The latter is a sign of insensitivity. They must be told as it happens, not three days after the fact! |
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Don’t sweat the small stuff, like a husband who doesn’t call during the work day or a wife’s nagging. It is momentary, unlike a tattoo, which is a permanent reminder of pain. |
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Recognize the big stuff, such as a spouse who is controlling with money or emotions or who is demeaning in public. This never changes; it is chronic. |
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Beware of the spouse who is unwilling to see that there is a problem or be part of the change needed to solve it. |
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Inattention is a symptom of neglect. Worry when your husband or wife is always working, at the gym or out with friends. A private investigator is a waste of funds; you can read the writing on the wall. |
Arlan Kardon is chair of the Domestic Relations Practice at Dolchin, Slotkin & Todd, and is admitted to practice in New York and Pennsylvania. In 2004 and 2005, she was cited as one of Pennsylvania’s Top 50 Woman Lawyers. She is a lecturer in her field for the Pennsylvania Bar Associations and was a lecturer for Temple University’s LLM program.
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